Have you ever noticed how some people just
walk into a room and light up the place and have you always wanted to be like?
people so it’s a new year and it’s time for a new you a charismatic magnetic
attractive and more confident you and I’m going to give you seven sure short
and super easy techniques to be this new person.
So
let’s get going hey this is TFN and how to be this attractive and magnetic
personality you know when you go onto the internet you’ll find a gazillion tips
on this topic I’m going to give you my own secret tried and tested very easy
and surefire techniques to be this person at
conversation
Number
one is conversation ratio listening is this magnetic and strange
thing like a creative force and the friend who listens to us is the one that we
are drawn towards so the perfect conversation ratio is 75 listening and 25
speaking and also when someone is talking to you cultivate the art of active
listening so like nodding your head and going like wow yeah amazing really
superb so when you’re listening to them they get really talking to you and try
to connect something that they told you the last time for example hey betty
how’s your father doing now also avoid the me too syndrome you know when
somebody talks to us we have a tendency to say hey that happened to me too but
it’s not about you it’s about them and always maintain kind eyes and a warm
appreciative smile and you’re going to see people attracted to you like a
magnet
Icebreaker
Number 2 is
icebreaker jokes famous actor jim carrey once said that i become more
attractive when i laugh at myself now no friendly conversation is complete
without some leg pulling and laughing and a person becomes truly charismatic
when they can confidently laugh at themselves it shows that they are
comfortable in their own skin and it kind of relaxes the group immediately they
see the more human side of you and warm up to you instantly so have a good
laugh at yourself at
Card
Number three is name card you know in the Egyptian
mythology ra the sun god had to walk through the darkness every night and fend
off these monsters and the only reason why the monsters couldn’t attack him was
because he knew their true names and this idea of the true names giving you
power also is seen in some sci-fi movies and the same theme runs through the German
fairy tale of Rumpelstiltskin so knowing somebody’s name is like having some
power over them so when you’re talking to somebody use their name frequently
like hey jack how have you been haven’t seen you in a while now don’t crazily
overdo it and the big mistake here is to fumble and say hey perch make sure you
remember their name and you use it frequently at
Secret
strategy
Number four is the secret strategy now
should i tell you the secret strategy or not only on one condition if you
promise not to tell anyone okay deal come closer in his book influence the
psychology of persevation robert cialdini talks about the scarcity principle he
says that when something is scarce or it’s in shortage people find it
attractive now for a person we call it the secret strategy which means that if
you tell somebody a secret they kind of think that you trust them and in turn
they trust you back so if you want this close circle of friends make sure that
you tell them a little secret about yourself and they’re gonna like you that
much more and trust you also a little more and feel closer to you but make sure
that you’re telling them your own secret and don’t tell the secret of friend
number a to friend number b because that’s like at
Roots
Number five is roots of interest now have you
ever met a person who can bore you to death by talking about the same topic
over and over again yeah me too now a charismatic person is one who can talk
fluently on a wide range of topics so the key here is to develop passion and
interest in different topics while being sensitive to others and respecting
their own maybe preferences thoughts and opinions and also when you show
interest in something they’re passionate about they’re certainly going to get
attracted towards you at
Magnet
Number six is magnet of friends now if you
have this home of friends and build this great relationship with people by
socializing often it’ll be a great source of confidence for you but it’s
important to be genuinely kind caring helpful and appreciative of people actually
like you not only for who you are but for how you make them feel and if you
make them feel good then you will be this perfect magnet for all your friends
at
Art
Number seven the art of saying no I know how
difficult it is to get out of bed on a weekend especially after you’ve had a
really tiring week but what’s more difficult is to say no to this over excited
friend for a group meetup it’s kind of this fine balance between being a
likable and a rude person but a charismatic and confident person is one who can
say no politely and yet firmly so you could say sorry I don’t think I’ll be
able to do this today for some opportunity that you may not be able to fully
oblige or no thanks I don’t think I need this today to a pushy salesperson or
you can say thank you but I think I’ll give it a miss or I’m afraid I have
another commitment for an unwanted invitation and if you say all of this with a
smile you will sound like a firm and confident person without sounding arrogant
so I hope these seven techniques are going to help you become this charismatic
magnetic attractive and super confident person.